I combine my trauma expertise with my bodywork experience to heal complex developmental trauma caused by chronic neglect and violation; negative experiences that impact the body and the mind and stand in the way of peace, joy, and bliss.
Nonverbal techniques and approaches which I am well versed in may be used in our sessions to help in exploration and expression of conscious and unconscious actions, patterns, and goals. These approaches include art therapy, play therapy, sand play therapy, creative movement, voice, Focusing, guided visualization, and breathwork.
How I work
My practice is client-directed and trauma-focused. If bodywork is clearly requested, it is introduced in the exact ways which you request. The touch may be felt as relaxing, sensual, or erotic; and it may evoke memories stored in the body. In my work with individual clients the touch is always one way, from me to you, and guided by you. It is safe, sane, and based on your deep and clear consent. I hold my work sacred and steer clear from dual and sexual relationships with my clients, current or past.
In sessions with couples, the touch is given and received by each member of the couple to and from the other. The purpose of the hands-on practice is to gain healthier habits of self-acceptance, communication, boundary-setting, and intimacy.
I fully apply the principles the Wheel of Consent to my work.
More About My Approach
If you are interested in working with me I highly recommend reading my chapters in the book “Healers on the Edge“. I have described the “Perfect Touch” approach in one chapter and the process of my work with a client in another.
In November 2019 I was invited by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) to present my work on touch and trauma. You may visit this link for more details (https://cs.aasect.org/content/body-whisperers-understanding-body-work-sexuality-realm)
I feel proud to have received support for my method of addressing trauma from two of the world-renowned leaders in the field of trauma.
When we work together, my role is:
- to be in a grounded presence for you
- to help you stay in connection with your Self
- to witness your true essence
- to respond to you as perfectly as possible by giving you the response you clearly and intentionally ask for, no more, no less. This response may take the form of words, touch, gaze, or witnessing.
- To help you integrate (and master) the unresolved effects of your traumatic experiences and to regain your power and agency
Here’s how we work together
If you are curious about my work and/or interested in working with me I will offer you a 20-30 minute phone or video call or face to face chat, free of charge, to see how I might be helpful to you. You can then decide on your next step.
Once you decide to begin working with me, I will ask you to answer some questions on my standard intake form, and then we will have an in-person meeting.
This initial session helps me understand your history and your needs, as well as your specific challenges and strengths. Exercises on personal boundaries and mindfulness of body sensations create the foundation for healthy communication and further bodywork if needed.
You don’t have to undress in any session. The body work can be done with or without clothes; the choice is yours.
Number of Sessions
A single session is usually a powerful experience that helps open your eyes to your personal desires as well as your personal power. The goal is to feel into what you want and to clearly ask for it. This first session offers an opportunity for us to establish rapport and a good level of trust which is necessary for deeper work.
A series of sessions creates continuity and connection in the personal process. Insights gained in one session make the path for the explorations in the next.
If exploring pleasure and achieving higher erotic states is your goal, then body-mapping of sensations and mindful receiving of pleasure can help.
There is a vast menu of offerings in this practice: from realizing personal boundaries to recognizing true consent, from simple sensations to the highest levels of pleasure, from discovering your grounded power to embodying divine presence. A longer series of sessions offers a great chance for a deeper journey.
I would recommend a set of 5 sessions for a firm foundation for trauma work.
Visit here to see regular or discounted rates (on prepaid packages of 3 or 5 sessions).
Trauma and Touch
Touch is a powerful path to releasing trauma, memories, and to gain a positive relationship with one’s body. My expertise in trauma-focused bodywork enables me to facilitate the emotional release that may arise during this transformative work.
My unique approach to using client-directed touch in therapy can address personal trauma in an effective and efficient way; great distances can be covered in a few sessions with a lot less emotional pain, which is usually associated with the usual counselling practices. In fact, in my sessions, a sense of grounded peace and calm is common after an intense emotional release.
There are many books and resources available on the topic of trauma. The following two books are among the best and most accessible:
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
- Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine