Eros is about the desire to show up, to connect with life. The erotic experience is not just about getting naked and having an orgasm. Although it can be. It can also be about feeling a deep grief, or a huge love. We can feel erotic in a conversation or while enjoying food. Something gets stirred up inside, something sweet. Something is released from our depths, like a hero released from captivity. It can be sweet even when it is painful. Like releasing a sleeping foot from under the weight of the body. The pain sometimes is a sign of life coming back into the body. We can feel again, in places where we used to be blank. What was captive before is now free. There is the quickening of the heart, a rush of emotions, a cascade of sorrow and love, of rage and gratitude, of shame and grace. Life is now unleashed.